September 24, 2013
Tips to save your ass once you are expecting 498A
PRE DIVORCE CHECKLIST
- Cancel all credit cards
- Clean out all bank and investment accounts.
- Collect all bank statements, ___utility bills______ canceled checks___, insurance policies___ and anything in the house that bears a dollar sign and deliver them to your attorney for safekeeping.
- Pack a bag and keep it elsewhere This might even include some foodstuffs, locate a potential dwelling but DO NOT LEAVE THE HOME UNLESS ORDERED BY THE JUDGE.
- Contact an attorney experienced in custody cases who has a reputation as a fighter.
- Become or remain deeply involved in your children’s school activities. Meet with teachers, attend PTA meetings, ball games, etc.
- Provide all the child care functions for your child, keep a record of dates and witnesses(LINK)
- Make home movies/take pictures of you and the child together.
- Make a Witness List of people who have observed you doing all the above
- At the last minute before anything is filed, clean out ALL valuables, guns, jewelry, personal effects, photos that mean a lot to you, etc. from the house and put in storage. Get your wife’s empty pill bottles and any mental records. Deny her anything to hock to pay for attorney fees and deny her control of anything she can hold over your head. Assume that whatever you leave in the house will never be seen again. Do this even if you NOW have control of the house. DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE CHILDREN’S RESIDENCE EVEN TEMPORARILY UNLESS ORDERED BY A COURT! DO NOT LEAVE CHILDREN WITHOUT FOOD, UTILITIES ETC. YOU CAN DIRECTLY PURCHASE THINGS THEY NEED .
- DO NOT ACQUIRE OR EXPOSE ANY NEW GIRLFRIEND OR ALLOW HER TO INTERMEDDLE UNTIL THE DIVORCE IS FINAL!!!! This will make things go MUCH smoother. Spend time with your kids instead of dating. Live alone in a place with a bedroom for the kids, full of toys/computers etc if the court orders you out of the marital residence.
- DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT, RECORD AND LOG EVERYTHING IN A CHRONOLOGICAL LOG(LINK)
- KEEP AN EXHIBIT LOG, NUMBERING EACH POTENTIAL EXHIBIT AS YOU GO .KEEPING HUNDREDS OR THOUSANDS OF POTENTIAL EXHIBITS ORGANIZED CAN BE A NIGHTMARE. USE EMAIL AND WRITTEN CONFIRMATIONS OF IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS. CREATE A PAPER TRAIL.
- Make NO threats of violence,EVER! Do nothing even remotely threatening or violent. It will totally destroy your case. Bite your tongue, no name calling. Always be quiet , polite and courteous. YOU must be the guy in the white hat. Let her be the vindictive one!
- If your state law allows ,carry a secret pocket tape recorder (turned on) anytime you are in your spouses immediate area.
- Review this list with a local attorney before use.
- USE OF THIS LIST DOES NOT ESTABLISH AN ATTORNEY/CLIENT RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE USER AND ATTORNEY ISAACS OR THE FATHERS RIGHTS FOUNDATION. USE THIS LIST ONLY WHEN OK’D BY A LOCAL ATTORNEY
Location of the case – This plays an important role. She can file a case where you and your family do not stay or you don’t have any flexibility. She can file a case in her home town or her uncle’s home town where they have the flexibility to give you more torture. To avoid this, make sure you build a proof that she stays with you and your town where you work. For that you can seek post paid phone connection, Passport, Voting card etc.
To avoid Dowry case – If she is not having any passport then get a passport for her and make sure that she fill and sign the annexxure I which has specifically mentioned that she has not given any dowery. Remember Dowery giving and taking both are criminal offenses. You can find Passport Annexure details here..
http://passport.gov.in/cpv/ANNEXUREI_std.htm
http://passportindia.gov.in/AppOnlineProject/online/annexureAffidavit
File a petition against threatening against 498 and domestic violence and other before she file a case on you.
Physical violence – On any events, if her family does any physical violence or something related, record an audio/video and dial 100. File a RTI to get a 100 dial record. This will be helpful for you.
Family financial background – Find out her family financial background. If they are in govt jobs, RTI is the best tools.
To get a Regular bail – You need to arrange 2 government employees or anyone who owns a bike or a car or any property in that particular distt can take your bail.
Parents are being Threatned – you can register a complaint in senior citizen commission and in national human rights commission regarding their innocence and for their security from threatening
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